Whether other students would like me or notice me.
Good grades, pleasing others (parents and teachers).
Social pressures, relationships.
Keeping up apperances and time management in an academic program.
Being singled out.
Taking care of the horse before I got ready for school.
Fitting in, being liked by peers, what to do when I finished school.
Maintaining a very high academic average (only because I put my pressure on myself).
Staying involved/doing well in school. Maintaining high marks.
My biggest worries as a teen were being accepted and liked.
Something happeing to my parents/family members.
Not doing well academcially.
Keeping marks high to meet my parents standards.
Boyfriend, exceeding at school, wanting to excel, family alcoholism.
Marks for univsersity, fitting in with peers/moving schools – new friends.
What career choice to make.
School. I used to be my parents to let me stay home! I had many difficulties in trying to relax in school and learn. I was your school refusal student. I worried about everything, especially school.
Being able to please everyone in all my activities (sports, music, school, friends, etc). Achieving academic success. Not missing out on anything. Never going to find a boyfriend or have someone to want to be with me.
Failure. Making parents proud.
Getting caught doing things. Family situations.
Friends, appearance, dating, marks, future.
What I was going to do when high school ended. Who to hang around with.
Do my friends like me enough to include me in their plans?
My apperance and acceptance. I wanted to be liked.
My biggest worry was receiving good grades. I struggled with math and I had to work hard to get good grades.
My biggest worry was “What am I going to do after high school?”. I also worried about being seperated from my friends.
Keeping average about 90%. Global conflict/nuclear war threat. Eventually finding a job.
Marks. What to do when finished.
There were several – many (my family was not well-off), grades (I was an A student but Dad always wanted more), self-image/weight (low self-esteem), and home life (alcoholism at home).
Balancing home chores and demands with school and friends. Being able to “live up to” my friends and family expectations. Money for post-secondary.
Being accepted/make friends. Dealing with being bullied because of being over weight. Worried about being alone…hated….made fun of…feeling useless/worthless.
Weight. Popularity. Friends.
Being one of the cool kids!
Walking over a bridge near our school where the other students hung out. Fear of getting bullied, as some of my friends were bullied by the same crowd in same spot. Doing well in school and being on a being a ‘prep’.
That no one would love me. I wouldn’t find a spouse. People judge me as slutty because I had big boobs. Always tried to hide them.
Personal phsycial apperance, Family financial situation, shyness, friendships, fitting in.
Fitting in. Making friends. Fear.
Can’t remember back that far! Probably overcoming lack of confidence (shyness). Tiredness – difficulties attending and doing well in school due to this.
Social Pressure dominiates, academic students worry more about their marks, family break-up.
Fitting in, belonging, friends.
What people are saying about them in all the places they are found today.
Social acceptance/perception, performance.
Many of the same that have always existed but now are amplified for a variety of reasons.
Keeping up appearances.
Being different, not belonging.
Pressure to meet the expectations of the world around them.
Fitting in, juggling the demands of the different aspects of their life (work, social, school, home).
Feeling accepted, fear of consequences of social media.
“Fitting in”, being part of the group. Dealing with social media issues, achievement/future plans.
Peer pressure, sexuality/gender issues.
Anxiety/bullying, peer pressure.
Being liked, presenting in front of others, falling behind.
Friends, school grades, when work piles up, relationships, peer pressure, mental health.
They don’t have any accountablility – not that they are worried about it – but they should be.
Peer pressure to become invovled in drugs, drinking, partying, sexual activity, missing school, sexting, fitting in, having the “right” clothes, having money, having a car, family issues.
Image, fitting in – popularity.
Trying to fit in and be included.
Fitting and having friends. I think it depends on the child/teenager. I know that some students are sick with worry over their grades and doing well. Getting on the honor roll.
academic successs and knowing what they are supposed to do with the rest of their lives; sexual pressure; being perfect; physically, emotionally. Afraid to show weakness/ask for help.
Social media interaction.
Friends, future (job or education), social Life.
Fitting in with peers.
Bullying. Personal safety.
Social media (texting, facebook, twitter).
Losing their “support team” (Parents/teachers/friends). Career choices. Going back for a fourth year. Being separated from their friends. Fear of not being liked or not “fitting in” with a group (ie. Acceptance (lack of). Academic achievement/failure.
Most – still academic, financial, but greater awareness and sensitivity to other areas. Social expectations, peer pressure.
My biggest worry was whether my sports commitments were going to interfere with my social life! (really no worries).
Being accepted, peer pressure (drinking and drugs), success in all they do, being over-scheduled (too many activities/groups).
They are smart, they look ahead, there is a lot of confidence.
Resiliance, adaptability, fits most of them – not all.
That they are aware or sensitive to friends.
Eagerness to learn, varied interests, skills.
They appear to learn faster.
How some of them juggle all the things they are involved in.
They have to cope with the most demands on their time. They are far more inondated with information, access to more difficutl and potentially harmful issues/substances.
The ability to balance their “treadmills of life”. So many still manage this very well. I also admire those who aren coping but are willing to seek help.
Their honesty about issues. Their dedication/hardwork for causes they believe in.
How hard it is to fit in and belong and keeping up with all the school work.
How open they are with their opinions, fears, feelings.
Willingness to help each other.
Clever, funny, want to do well.
They are great advocates. Aware of the world around them. Accepting of the diversities/differences in others.
They are kind and will rise to the challenge when it is there. I believe any student can rise to the situation they have the ability. They may hate the classroom – give them the chance to show a new student where the room are in the school and they will do amazing. In short, I believe teens are all brillilant – they just need to find out in what way. I admire the brillance in every student.
I admire their creativity and while I’m a teach and I share knowledge, I find most often my “kids” teach me too! I also admire the fact they can make me smile and how they can survies in a world which demands so much of them.
Perceptive and strong opinions and points of view that are valuable. Ability to manager time, free time, friends, family, school, extra curricular. Willingness to try new things.
They are passionate about learning.
Resiliance and overal respect and demenor.
Socially aware. Desire to achieve.
Their ability to persevere despite the many challenge they face. Also the self-confidence that many of this generation seem to have.
Their desire to help others – to do the right thing.
Lack of fear surrounding technology.
Resilience. Willingness to open up.
They often talk to teachers about their issues.
The ability to “bounce back” from setbacks.
So many have the ability to “Juggle” so many activities and expectations. Much more (greater) ability to process informations (access to technology, information may be main cause).
Kind, caring, want to get better, want to do well.
Ability to work through the many issues they face.
Many of the students I teach are level-headed hard-workers. Being a teen in todays world? – Glad it wasn’t me!
Their ability to roll up their sleeves and help others. Their generosity. Their passion for doing. Their energy, joy.
Helpful, supportive, caring and kind to peers and adults around them.
I enjoy watching them grow and learn. I admire their energy and excitement.
Honesty, compassions, street smarts/sometimes, eagerness to learn.
They way they question and are curious about everything. Honesty.
They accept people for their differences, at least the ones that are obvious, like race, religion, sexuality.
They are juggling so much these days. School is only small part of their day/week (extra-curriculars, pressure to be the best in those activities). They are bombarded by the medical with false images of beauty and still manage to maintain some level of confidence.
They are aware of themselves and can express it. They have talents that are untapped. They have zest for life.
React (respond) to what is in your control – ignore that which isn’t.
Do your best and take and be responsible for what you do.
Stick together, make good friends and don’t take the stress from theirs.
Learn to keep “small things small”, avoid the “dramas” that amplify relatively small issues.
Breath in AND out.
Rely on those who love you and believe that this will pass.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Seek support from one of the adults you trust in your life. You are not the first person to deal with this and you won’t be the last.
Focus on building “emotional muscle” and helping them with the baby steps.
There is help there for you and people who care about you. Never feel you are alone even when it gets really difficult or challenging. Come and talk to someone don’t carry it all yourself.
Bear with it, it will get better, practice strategies.
This to shall pass.
Others are going through what you’re going through. Stick with it. Things will get better.
Struggling is normal and a part of life, but there is lots of support out there for you.
Talk to an adult you trust – they care.
To picture what they want in life and list the steps in getting there. Find a solution to their greater fear, then other fears/struggles will not seem as intesne if they know they can face their greatest fear/struggle.
Being a teen is temporary. This will pass and you can get better. There is help with this. I can help you or point you in the direction of help if I do not have the knowledge to. And remember, nothing is every as good OR as bad as it seems. My door is always open if you want to have a chat.
Nothing is as bad as it seems. You’re ok, just relax, breath and believe when things go wrong you can fix the things you are in control of. If it is out of your control, just breath and let it go.
Ask questions, talk to someone you are comfortable with. Teachers were teenagers once….and we – or no one else- are perfect.
That there are bumps in the road, your WHOLE life – how you deal with them – only m ake you an overall round individual.
Speak to an adult you trust.
To talk out their problems and seek help if needed.
Talk to somone.
Learing coping skills. “Disappointments” are normal in life. How you deal with them is what matters.
Ask for help from people you trust.
Focus on the positive. It will get better. What is the likelihood of the worst-case scenarios happening? You are alive!
That everything passes. Tomorrow is another day. This time next week, it’s just a memory.
Talk to parents. Get medical help if needed.
Set attainable/manageable goals. Develop organizations skills. Develop coping skills.
Do what you can to get through school. Life gets better. School will be a memory (good or bad). Associate yourself with people with a good attitude and set goals.
That it gets better!
Whatever the issues, it’s not the end of the world. Talk to someone you trust and get the help you need. Try to remain positive. Things will get better if you put in the work.
You have had more success in your 11-13 year than you have had sturggles. You are almost done! You can do it!
Focus on all the good things in your life, not bad things. Joine a group doing something you enjoy, you’ll probably meet new friends with which you can enjoy the things you like to do. Take time for yourself and do things that you enjoy and make you feel good.
Don’t sweat the small stuff…and it’s all small stuff. Live in the moment and enjoy!
Just try your best. Be yourself.
Remember your talents and learn how to relax. It’s okay to make a mistake.
Forgive. Start with yourself. Judge no one, including yourself!
Depends on the kid….
Do what makes you happy. People will follow.
You don’t have to do it alone – ask for help. I believe in you!! You are worth it!!